All I Love and Know

All I Love and Know

A Novel

eBook - 2014
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Told with the storytelling power and emotional fidelity of Wally Lamb, this is a searing drama of a modern American family on the brink of dissolution, one that explores adoption, gay marriage, and love lost and found.For years, Matthew Greene and Daniel Rosen have enjoyed a quiet domestic life together in Northampton, Massachusetts. Opposites in many ways, they have grown together and made their relationship work. But when they learn that Daniel's twin brother and sister-in-law have been killed in a bombing in Jerusalem, their lives are suddenly, utterly transformed.In dealing with their families and the need to make a decision about who will raise the deceased couple's two children, both Matthew and Daniel are confronted with challenges that strike at the very heart of their relationship. What is Matthew's place in an extended family that does not completely accept him or the commitment he and Daniel have made? How do Daniel's questions about his identity as a Jewish man affect his life as a gay American? Tensions only intensify when they learn that the deceased parents wanted Matthew and Daniel to adopt the children—six-year-old Gal, and baby Noam.The impact this instant new family has on Matthew, Daniel, and their relationship is subtle and heartbreaking, yet not without glimmers of hope. They must learn to reinvent and redefine their bond in profound, sometimes painful ways. What kind of parents can these two men really be? How does a family become strong enough to stay together and endure? And are there limits to honesty or commitment—or love?
Publisher: 2014
Branch Call Number: Overdrive
Characteristics: 1 online resource
Reproduction: Electronic reproduction. New York : William Morrow Paperbacks, 2014. Requires OverDrive Read (file size: N/A KB) or Adobe Digital Editions (file size: 730 KB) or Kobo app or compatible Kobo device (file size: N/A KB) or Amazon Kindle (file size: N/A KB)
Additional Contributors: OverDrive, Inc
ISBN: 9780062302885


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Writing from a place of personal knowledge as a gay woman with children who has, herself, lived in both Israel and Massachusetts, Frank has a mastery for creating believable, empathetic, and complex characters and situations, which are realistically resolved - or not. The dilemma faced by the Ros... Read More »

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Jun 21, 2018

A well-written book, but I couldn't find any way to connect emotionally with the almost universally unlikable cast of characters.

Jan 23, 2016

I couldn't get beyond the first chapter. Why, just because it is a story of two gay guys, does it have to delve immediately into their sex life to the point that the rest of the story is subdued? Matthew appears to be a selfish narcissus with no redeeming qualities that might make him interesting to read about. He refers to himself as a shallow queen which is a good description.

LaughingOne Oct 28, 2014

This is a complex, totally engrossing novel about two gay men (partners), Matt and Daniel, who live in Northampton, Massachusetts. When Daniel’s twin brother and his wife are killed in a café bombing in Jerusalem, everything starts to change for the couple. Daniel’s brother and sister-in-law had told them some time ago that if anything happened to them, they wanted Daniel and Matt to raise their two children, Gal, a 6-year-old girl, and Noam, a 1-year-old boy. This was in their will but her parents, Holocaust survivors, challenge this request, and the Israeli court gets involved. This is just the beginning of the many challenges that have to be faced in this novel. Other issues include trying to change from being a gay couple to being a family with two small children and all that entails, the acknowledged and unacknowledged grief that everyone feels but maybe cannot express at the violent deaths of close family members, the political ramifications of those deaths and the violent relationships between Israelis and Palestinians, loyalty, fidelity, and love. How does a 6-year-old and a 1-year-old express their feelings about something they can’t understand?
I was completely drawn into this world and lived with these people for the year or so the novel covers. There are no magic answers, no perfect ways of being, there are just fragile, human people who do the best they can, which isn’t always enough. This novel is well worth reading.


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