The List of Things That Will Not Change

The List of Things That Will Not Change

Book - 2020 | First edition
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Despite her parents' divorce, her father's coming out as gay, and his plans to marry his boyfriend, ten-year-old Bea is reassured by her parents' unconditional love, excited about getting a stepsister, and haunted by something she did last summer at her father's lake house.
Publisher: New York : Wendy Lamb Books, [2020]
Edition: First edition
Branch Call Number: FICTION STE
Characteristics: 218 pages ; 22 cm
ISBN: 9781101938096


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Life is complicated. And things change. But, according to the list Bea’s parents gave her, some things will never change. What about the ones that do?

I love this book because it realistically deals with disappointment, something that most kids experience, but a hard thing to write about. Life is complicated, relationships are complicated, and nothing is simplified here. Recommended by Gudrun

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Apr 29, 2021

Divorce of parents, and coming of age. Dad becomes gay? And then is getting remarried to boyfriend. Great reviews.

DCLkids Mar 15, 2021

A Great Books for Great Kids staff pick 2021. Bea has been going through some major life changes, including her parent's divorce and her father coming out as gay. But she holds close to her heart the List of Things That Will Not Change from her parents. Now her dad is engaged and she will finally have a sister, but things might be a little more complicated than she thinks. Perhaps not everything will turn out how she wants. Grades 7-8.

WPL_Andrea Oct 29, 2020

Such a tender, funny, wise story. The herione, Bea, is believable and likeable and deals with situations that are relatable to children. And we go on this wonderful journey with her as she discovers that doing bad things doesn't mean you are a bad person. It was light and moving at the same time. Loved it!

Tigard_HollyCP Sep 06, 2020

When Bea’s parents told her they were divorcing, they gave her a list of things that will not change: Mom’s love for her, Dad’s love for her, Mom and Dad’s caring for each other, etc. Now Bea's dad will be marrying his boyfriend Jesse, and Bea could not be more excited. Not only will she be gaining a stepfather, but also a sister: Jesse's daughter, Sonia. At least that part of her life is going right. Bea started worrying when she was 8. She uses her list to keep her grounded, and following her counselor’s advice, she sets aside worry time twice a day. She worries about her cousin who has some mysterious affliction, her mom’s feelings about her dad getting re-married, her problems managing her anger at school. Bea’s voice is unforgettable, and the love of all three of her parents for her is so tender and moving. My favorite book this year! HIGHLY recommend for elementary students and would love to see this make it on a future 3-5 Oregon Battle of the Books list.

OPL_KIDS Jul 13, 2020

Two years after her parents’ divorce, twelve-year-old Bea’s father announces he and his boyfriend Jesse are getting married. Bea is thrilled. She loves Jesse. And when she learns that Jesse has a daughter her same age, she is even more thrilled about the prospect of finally having a sister like she has always dreamed of. As they prepare for the wedding and face new changes, Bea discovers that the realities of being a blended family are sometimes more challenging than she imagined. The first-person narration authentically reveals Bea’s inner thoughts and feelings with respect. An uplifting—but not overly sentimental—story.

Reviewed by Mr. Gregg


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"Life is like a trip. A very long one. And what matters most is the people you travel with." p 237

"My life feels like a room with two windows and two moons." p 174

"There are a lot of feelings behind feelings. / When Miriam first told me about that, I got a picutre in my mind's eye of a girl standing very still, with someone hiding behind her, and someone ELSE behind HER. And they're all perfectly straight so that no one can tell how many people are actually there. Sometimes I feel exactly like that. Like I'm a bunch of different Beas, all lined up to look like one." p 90


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Jul 29, 2020

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